Let’s face it, online learning has been a struggle for everyone—kids, parents, and teachers. As the virtual classroom continues, many kids may be losing momentum and parents are certainly feeling drained. With no end in sight anytime soon, I wanted to share some virtual learning tips to keep kids engaged and parents sane.
- Plan Ahead, Emotionally & Technologically.
- Set Expectations.
- Environment Is The Key.
- Help Children Minimize Distractions.
- Maximize FaceTime.
- Make the Most Out of Semi-Synchronous Learning.
- Use Different Ways to Increase Interaction.
Seven Empirically Tested Parenting Strategies:
- Provide Labeled Praise. Studies have shown that the behavior that gets attention is the behavior that you’ll get more of. Attention to undesired behavior — often in the form of reprimands or punishment — will increase undesired behavior. At the same time, specific, labeled praise of desired behaviors increase that behavior. Parents should not offer praise indiscriminately, says Sheila Eyberg, PhD, a psychology professor who conducts research on parent-child relationships. Instead, parents should give specific feedback on exactly what the child did that the parent liked.
- Ignore Minor Misbehavior. If a misbehavior is minor and not dangerous, ignore it. Ignoring when a toddler throws food on the floor or a pre-teen slams a door, while responding with attention when they ask nicely or express their feelings teaches the child that good behavior is a reliable way to get attention (The Kazdin Method for Parenting the Defiant Child).
- Become a Student of Child Development. Understanding developmental milestones can help a parent attend to and praise steps toward that milestone. Knowing a four-year-old wants to please friends will make you more likely to praise their positive behavior with friends. At the same time, understanding that young teens typically have concerns about body image, looks and clothes might make it easier to ignore all that extra time spent in front of the mirror.
- Do Time-Outs Right Along With Quality Time-In. Brief and immediate time-outs have been shown to work best, particularly when paired with parents who are also modeling positive behaviors and praising good behavior. Keeping calm — often a real challenge at the moment a misbehavior is occurring! — and praising compliance makes time-outs more effective.
- Focus on Prevention of Misbehavior. Paying attention to when a child gets tired or hungry can prevent a large portion of meltdowns. Planning ahead and anticipating potential problems and teaching a child strategies to cope with problems when they arise can even eliminate the need to use time-outs, says John Lutzker, PhD, the director of the Center for Healthy Development at Georgia State University.
- Take Care of Yourself First. According to a 2010 APA study, children are negatively affected by parental stress, with 86 percent of children reporting that parental stress bothers them. It can seem nearly impossible when you’re busy with the demands of parenting, work and life, but it is essential to take time to exercise, maintain hobbies and connect with friends and partners.
- Take Time and Do Nothing. Spend time with your child (experts recommend 1 hour a week per child) doing nothing but being with them, acting interested in them, and expressing positive thoughts and feelings to them. Avoid teaching, inquiring, correcting or offering alternative perspectives.
Karen Dukes, EdD
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